I’d intended to send y’all a gloriously indulgent trauma-informed and AuDHD and ADHD-ADHD-friendly yoga nidra for this week’s Sole to Soul Circle exclusive content but…

Am behind with work and also DONE for Christmas.

The tooth I broke on Saturday night (and all the angst of phoning around on Sunday and Monday desperately trying to get an emergency appointment this year without having to cross the country to Dublin) took more out of me than expected.

And while I was fully present for the last sessions of 2025, my delusional dreams of getting EVERYTHING scheduled and ready in time for a complete rest… I decided to prioritise rest (aka the hecticness of CHRISTMAS prep and connection and joy).

So I’d figured I’d record it today (got the tooth fixed yesterday, thank God/dess) but… I COULD and in the past I would have.

But instead, I invite you to check out any of the existing yoga nidras in the Exclusively Membership Benefits Area as well as (for non Sole to Soul Circle members) a wide range of free ones on my site and YouTube channel.

Here’s a rest supporting EFT Tap Along and yoga nidra

l’ll select a longer one to share below the paywall to save members’ potential overwhelm but I really hope you’ll enjoy whichever yoga nidras you choose to listen to knowing that this non-sleep deep rest not only supports your health and healing but also harnesses the power of your unconscious mind to help you turn your dreams (the good ones) into reality.

So Happy Happy Christmas and am looking forward to sharing more next week.

le grá (with love),

Eve

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Have you made your special, intentional Yule Log?

If you haven’t yet, listen or watch wherever you get your podcasts and access show notes, full transcript and links here

And if you HAVE, I hope you’ll join me for a special Yule Circle online at 8pm (Irish time) on Monday 22nd.

We’ll connect with each other and the seasonal energies in sacred space as we release inauthentic energies and welcome the light, warmth and other goodies to come. And we’ll burn our Yule logs together :)

(You can join if you’re using a piece of paper, too and even if you’re using your imagination. Do you.)

Wanna join us?

Email me (hit reply) to RSVP and get your Zoom link.

le grá (with love),

Eve

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Affirmations can be brilliant

Repeating our desired outcome (or in similar forms like with a Sankalpa) gently but powerfully takes advantage of the brain’s neuroplasticity, retraining it and transforming our lives.

AND they can be Really Hard.

When we know there’s a huge gulf between where we are and where we want to be, feeling like we’re lying to ourselves can make us feel even worse than we did before we tried.

Afformations are different

They help us move into that curious, ventral vagal energy where instead of, for example: “I love spending time with others even when I seem to feel all their feelings as well as my own!” you can experiment with wondering about how you got to where you want to be.

I like to use Little Bridge pose in yoga to help with this too.

As you hold the pose, grounding through the soles of the feet and shoulders and back of the arms and head, lifting the hips and torso to hug the heavens with the front of your body, you can think about how you’re bridging any gap in your life between where you are and where you want to be.

This video from the book bonus collection I created for 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing can help too.

And if you’d like to learn more about using afformations, you can read this article I wrote for Rapport (the magazine for NLP professionals) I wrote in 2019.

If you’re a paid member of the Sole to Soul Circle, you can email me to get additional support with creating your own afformations this week! It’s really worth putting the time into find something that will be a joy to explore and repeat and create.

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le grá (with love),

Eve

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Gwen’s back. If you missed the podcast episode, you can listen or watch wherever you get your podcasts and/or read the whole transcript here

In this bonus deeper dive for Sole to Soul Circle members, we’re talking about super fast brains and slower yoga.

How about YOU?

Grab your journal or do some embodied journalling (record (audio or video) yourself answering)

Strong movement is wonderful for anxiety and stress, helping us move the feelings and energy out of our bodies and honouring our ancient wiring and fight flight impulses. What are your favourite ways of moving stress and anxiety out of your body?

How do you feel at the idea of (once you’ve HONOURED this need) slowing down physically to support the mental ease Gwen is talking about (sometimes) reaching?

How do you rest?

How do you incorporate any kind of mindful movement into your days?

How MIGHT you?

Let me know (simply hit reply to this email).

le grá (with love),

Eve

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Watch or listen here if you missed it (or want to watch again - she’s brilliant)

Watch here or listen here or wherever you get your podcasts

I’ve been on my ADHD medication since the summer and having had to stop, temporarily, a few times, am now taking it for about half of each week and while I SOOOOO notice the difference mentally, the side effects mean I’m resisting going back on it full time for the moment.

My history with medication has been patchy. It kept me alive as an infant but having had an incurable chronic pain condition for most of my adult life, I had to lean into self-care and dramatic lifestyle changes for pain relief.

When I was prescribed beta blockers for PTSD in my 30s, I hated taking them even more than when they’d been prescribed for anxiety in my early 20s. They didn’t stop me feeling afraid and hypervigilant, they just meant I had no energy to check for safety.

But they work for others.

We’re all different.

How about you?

Journal prompts

What medication have you been prescribed (for trauma recovery? ADHD? Autism side effects like anxiety?)

Who do you know who’s taken it?

Did that help you decide?

How did/do you react?

If you could alchemise the perfect medication and dosage for you, what would you like more/less of?

How might you minimise painful side effects?

What can you do to maximise your prescription’s efficacy? (Tracy pointed out that exercise not only helps some ADHDers not on medication but that it helps ADHD medication work better for those of us who ARE on medication)

What would you like to say to your doctors if you had all the time, money and access you wanted?

Watch our deeper dive interview (or read the full transcript) and let me know how YOU’RE getting on with your ADHD or any other medication (if you want to).

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Photo credit: Eve Menezes Cunningham (elephant in Kenya)

If you haven’t already listened to (or watched) yesterday’s episode, it’ll offer some ideas for you.

As will my episode with Alice Tew and Carly Radford!

Scroll down for your EFT Tap Along and before you start (or if you’re not a paid member), you might want to grab your journal or any pen and paper and note down some of the things you’ve internalised around other’s judgements of your sensitivity.

On a scale of 0 being Neutral, -10 being I’M WAY TOO SENSITIVE AND HATE IT and +10 being My Sensitivity is a Superpower, note where you are now.

Whether you’re joining us for the Tap Along or not, ask yourself what might help?

If YOU were to start honouring it right now?

What supports and accommodations can YOU put in place for yourself?

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And if you’ve never considered pottery or painting as self-care… I hope this will give you some ideas.

I attended my first acrylic pour workshop at the weekend and adored it so much. It was a wonderful way to ground some of my intentions in the pieces of art (see below).

What helps you?

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Am delighted Gina could stay with me for the Sole to Soul Circle.

If you missed this week’s podcast interview, where she discusses the upcoming Peace Begins at Home Summit, you can watch/listen here

We’ve been talking a little bit about parenthood and like if only children and adults, like basically if mothers had more support, if parents had more support they’d have more patience, they’d be able to be more nurturing, more nourishing, more all of the things for the babies, for the teenagers, for everything, but what advice would you like to share, if any, in a like obviously everyone’s doing their best but do say what you just told me, like with what you’ve learned from putting together this summit and also like just with hindsight being 2020.

Yeah I think that’s an interesting question and I’ll say what I said just before this, I used to own a parenting platform called Every Mum which was Ireland’s largest parenting community. The one thing I’m allergic to is giving parenting advice because you know what, we’re all just doing our best with what we have and I just don’t want ever to be in a situation or to be part of anything that makes mothers feel shit about what they’re doing you know…

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Snorkel selfie by Eve Menezes Cunningham 2025

Thank you for joining the Sole to Soul Circle, being part of the Sole to Soul Circle.

I explained a good bit about Ho’oponopono in previous episodes and blog posts and the book. And you can access this week’s episode and show notes here

https://selfcarecoaching.net/2025/10/14/in-own-your-privilege-change-the-world-episode-80-of-the-feel-better-every-day-podcast/

I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

Joe Vitale helped popularise the Ho’oponopono. There was a prison in Hawaii where the person who developed it, he cleared the prison, according to legend, by working on himself. He was told, here’s the information about the most dangerous criminals.

By recognising his connection to them, and everyone on the planet, he realised that the more he cleared himself, his own energy, the more everything would come into balance. We’re meant to be in balance. We’re meant to be in harmony.

Like, life is not meant to be the absolute horror show it is for so many people, and has been throughout the millennium, where certain groups oppress others. Let yourself feel that connection to everyone. Let yourself feel the perpetrator within yourself, as well as the victim within yourself.

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“There’s a difference between wearing makeup because you want to and it’s fun and it’s playful versus when you feel like you need to. And that might sound like a small thing, but it gives you a bit of time actually each day to not have to do that. So there were the daily things that I used to feel like I had to do that I started to challenge, which freed up a bit more space, which meant my mornings could be a bit more slower and a bit more gentler because there was less pressure on those things.” ~ Carly Radford

Welcome to the Sole to Soul Circle bonus interview with Carly and Alice.

I loved talking to them for this week’s podcast episode (spoiler alert: You’re NOT too much. You’re NOT too sensitive).

This deeper dive bonus content for Sole to Soul Circle members went a little off piste (Convocoaster [noun]: When ADHDers’ conversations resemble rollercoasters) and I hope you love it as much as I loved talking to them.

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Photo credit: Eve Menezes Cunningham 2025

Welcome to this video originally recorded for Sole to Soul Circle members on a special breathing technique designed by Dr Peter Levine who wrote Waking the Tiger and In an Unspoken Voice (which is where this comes from), to help soothe the vagus.

If you've been watching any of my videos over the last, I don't know, 15 years or so, you know I'm a big fan of that deeper breath, that slightly longer exhalation, helping to calm the nervous system, humming, singing, anything like that.

Peter Levine talks about Voo breathing which helps to support vagal tone and it helps you to come out of the dorsal vagal (Freeze!) response, that collapse, that fawn, that overwhelm, that numbing, that dissociating.

It's a really simple thing that you can do if you're able. It also helps us to come out of the sympathetic survival response (Hiss!) and so fight, flight, tend, befriend, as mentioned in this week's podcast episode.

Watch here or listen wherever you get your podcasts

And it helps to move us into ventral vagal, that Purr! in terms of Purr! Hiss! Freeze!

Here’s a reminder from Episode 48

So, I want you to sit comfortably or lie down comfortably or stand up comfortably, whatever feels good for you. This is so simple, you can do it anytime, anywhere.

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You don’t need me or anyone else to connect with yourself and your Self …

You’ve got this.

Learning the language of YOU is an enormous gift to yourself and all you come into contact with.

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For this week’s Sole to Soul Circle deeper dive into yesterday’s episode, you may feel quite uncomfortable (but it’ll be worth it).

We’re challenging your internalised ableism. Remember that we’re all connected and that there’s STRENGTH in needing others.

Some journal prompts:

• what areas of your life or what one thing makes you feel stupid?

• if you were either desperate enough to NEED the help or brave enough to give yourself permission to ask for support that would ease things for you, who would you be asking? For what? What kind of support would make a positive difference (assuming they’d be delighted and competent, too)

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As I mentioned in yesterday's podcast episode, childhood photos can be healing AND incredibly painful.

Don’t push yourself if it’s too painful. Yes, I’m a trauma therapist but what I share here isn't trauma therapy.

It’s for you to take better care of all your selves. (Remember that you deserve professional and loved ones’ help and support.)

This pic of a sweet kid on a bike (a Little Me!) used to send me almost running to the loo to throw up, so filled with self-loathing and blame at not having known how to protect Little Mes.

I loved being able to use this picture for this week’s podcast episode. It demonstrates so much trauma recovery (meaning I see the sweetness and have let go a lot of the shame).

You too can heal your Inner Children

The more you connect with your different Inner Child parts (or, in psychosynthesis terms, subpersonalities) the more you’ll be able to harvest their gifts without them acting out as you repeatedly self-sabotage.

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I hope you enjoyed yesterday's podcast episode around high functioning co-dependency.

Or listen wherever you get your podcasts

Today I really want you to go deeper and when I say today, whenever you're listening to this, whenever you're watching this, really give yourself permission to know what you know and want what you want.

Stop talking yourself out of it.

It may well be that you were conditioned at a very early age, maybe you were told you couldn't afford certain things that you wanted.

That you learned very early not to even ask.

Or maybe other people told you what you felt and you began to believe them rather than your own experience.

For today, I'm encouraging either regular journalling or embodied journalling.

I think that's really helpful, especially for this, because our wants and needs are so and our knowing is so loaded.

Especially with trauma histories and ADHD, you probably learned before you could even speak that expressing your basic needs and wants was too much (or not enough) for the adults you depended on for your survival.

By recording yourself speaking into your phone camera you'll then be able to notice…

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Photo of kitten Rainbow MagnifiCat scaling the curtains by Eve Menezes Cunningham

Episode 71 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast explores this in more detail (with inspiration from black cats and sharks) but it’s really powerful, transformational work and I’m looking forward to guiding Sole to Soul Circle members through a special online Circle on Monday, 18th August at 6.30pm (Irish time).

RSVP by responding to this email to get the Zoom link.

Subscribe now

Missed the episode? Catch up here (or tune in on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts).

Normally, I record elements of the online Circles but this is a very sensitive one so I encourage you to join us live if you can as there won’t be a recording BUT Sole to Soul Circle members can email me for specific feedback and suggestions.

le grá (with love),

Eve

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Photo of Rainbow MagnifiCat accepting belly rubs (pre murder button activation) by Eve Menezes Cunningham 2024

I’ve been listening to loads of Kasia Urbaniak interviews and this (all of it is great but the section from around 65 minutes to the end is especially relevant) felt like a great re our Be More Cat theme this week.

She also has some wonderful ways of handing the kind of inappropriate comments too many women have had to handle since long before we even became women.

And coincidentally, her book shares the same title as the amazing (Me Too founder, survivor and activist) Tamara Burke's so am sharing here gorgeous interview with Monica Lewinsky too.

While both are empowering women and girls, men, boys and people from ALL genders won’t regret listening.

How open are YOU to receiving all that is good in the world?

How much POSITIVE attention can you handle? (Think belly rubs for Purr!).

If you haven't already watched or listened to yesterday's news episode, listen or watchhere or wherever you get your podcasts.

I hope you enjoy Kasia and Tarana’s wisdom.

And am looking forward to diving deeper into your responses and more as we do live some shadow work (for Sole to Soul Circle members) on Monday 11th August from 6.30-7pm (Irish time).

RSVP by email for the Zoom link to join us ❤️🐈‍⬛️⭐️🌎

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Love is always available to you. Photo by Eve Menezes Cunningham 2025

I hope you found this week’s podcast episode (where I shared video diaries from my first 8 days on ADHD medication) helpful. Available wherever you get your podcasts and here

For this week’s deeper dive, I want you to be really gentle with yourself

It might sound simple to be sending love, compassion, kindness and care to the parts of yourself (the chronic conditions, painful parts, the self-loathing, shame, the parts you may find disgusting - I remember feeling physically sick seeing a medical book pic of a condition I had just been diagnosed with in my 20s and using crystals and meditation as well as yoga (and surgery. Modern medicine rocks!) to deal with it, really softened the way I saw that ickiness within.)

Be gentle with yourself and if certain parts, feelings or conditions feel too raw, imagine them in abstract form and still send that love and compassion.

Let me know how you get on.

Your special Sole to Soul Circle Meditation for every part of you, from the soles of your feet (that fully embodied approach) to your Soul (the transpersonal, beyond the person) awaits:

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Photo of Croagh Patrick at sunset, the Quay, Westport, Co Mayo, Ireland, by Eve Menezes Cunningham

Do you think you’re alone in feeling despair? You’re not!

Yesterday’s new podcast episode might also be of interest if you missed it (listen wherever you get your podcasts or watch here)

The more all of us are open about life's messiness, the less likely adult children, children, friends, loved ones, strangers, neighbours, anyone who might be struggling unbeknownst to you, is more likely to be able to open up to you or someone else.

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